Greetings and Salutations! Welcome one and
all to my little home away from home, my very own web page. While I've
been on the internet since 1992, it's not until January of 1999 that I've
actually made the jump to making my own page, so please bear with. :) While
most people finding their way here probably know something about me, I'm
sure a few will wander in without the faintest clue as to who I am. Malea
D. Buhlman, born March 10th, 1974 I've been told by people who have more
than a passing interest in astrology that yes, I am a Pisces to the core.
:) While I was born in Stanwood Washington, I grew up in Hilo, Hawai`i
ever since I was about a year old, and so that's where I consider myself
from. If you're wondering
where the name of my page came from, well Malea (Muh-lee-uh) means 'Calm
Waters' in Hawai`ian, and my first on-line character (An Elfquest character
for Two Moons MUSH) was called Calmwater because of that.
Growing up in Hawai`i was a lot different
from growing up in the mainland, as far as I can tell. Of course, I also
grew up in the 'country' part of the islands. You know, 'Where we're going,
there are no roads' kinda country. But I loved it. The peace and quiet,
not worrying about people that might try to kidnap you, knowing everyone
that lived within three miles of me...That kind of thing. Another side
effect of growing up in the islands is that we tend to be a bit more superstitious
than your average mainlander, much like a lot of the European people. Comes
from having your gods active and about where you live, I'd guess (*grin*).
I attended Malamalama Preschool, then Kealakehe
Elementary for a year while I lived in Kona, and then Kea`au Elementary
and Intermediate School when I moved back to the windward side of the island.
After that I attended Waiakea High School where I eventually became captain
of the Color Guard Rifle squad (part of our Marching Band), as well as
being a member of the Drama club and holding down two jobs. *Why* I decided
to make life hard on myself, I'm no sure, but I sure enjoyed it at the
time. As part of our school's Marching Band, after graduation I got to
go to Disney Land, Knots' Berry Farm, Magic Mountain, Sea World, and all
the other fun California amusement sites. Definitely worth all the bumps
and bruises from whacking myself with my wooden rifle. :) While I had wanted
to join the Air Force after High School, my mother was insistent that I
attend college, so I went to the University of Hawai`i at Manoa for a year,
before dropping out and running off to the mainland to find a bit of excitement
and adventure, and mostly to see more of the world than the tiny island
I'd lived on all my life.
While in College I'd gotten hooked first
on Role-playing, and then on the Internet . With the proliferation of MUSH
in that day, which combined RP and the 'Net, I was a goner. After leaving
my island home, I first stayed in North Carolina with a friend I
met online named Jay Grizzard. While there I worked for a budding internet
company called VNet, but then things far too complicated to go into here
happened and I moved again. North this time, to Michigan and Ann Arbor
with my then net friend who goes by Immortal Dreamer. I lived there for
a while, then moved to the outskirts of Detroit, then back down to North
Carolina, Asheville instead of Charlotte this time, with the affectionately
named 'Packhouse'. 13 people and 8 cats in a 2 bedroom apartment. Oy! Christmas
of 1994 found us back in Michigan however, eventually in Roseville, again
on the outskirts of Detroit. Living day-to-day, traveling hither-thither-and-non,
Immortal Dreamer and I, now engaged were doing little to improve our lot
in life, but were enjoying being able to pick up and *go* somewhere at
a moments notice.
December of 1995 added a new and permanent
fixture to my life, when I met Sean Bain, a Canadian who I quickly fell
for. Contrary to being jealous of my new paramour, Dreamer and Sean had
a lot in common and became fast friends. I suddenly found myself in the
middle of an odd sort of love triangle that I'm not sure I ever could have
navigated my way out of if the two of them hadn't taken matters into their
own hands and told me not to worry about it. When I found out I was pregnant
in 1996 I finally got around to marrying my long-time fiancee and my wonderful
daughter Hokulani was born October 2nd, 1996. In June of that same year
however, Dreamer and I moved to Hawai`i where we could see my family, the
first time since 1993 for me, and the first time ever for Dreamer. With
the shut-down of the C&H sugar mills on Big Island however, my long
time home had a 15-17% unemployment problem and without a degree and sufficient
experience in much besides making pizza, getting a job proved to be more
difficult than we'd hoped.
August of 1997 found us back in Michigan,
having scraped together enough money to get back to somewhere that we *could*
make money, and now in 1999 you'll find us both at the same jobs we got
that month. A record if I've ever seen one. My daughter's a littler over
2 years old now, and she has three loving parents in myself, Dreamer, and
Sean. We've actually got a large number of close friends and an active
social life and it's times like these, I wonder what appeal I saw living
on one meal a day (usually hamburger helper), scraping to make ends meet,
and running to other states at the drop of a hat. Of course, then I realize
what I'm thinking, and just feel all the older.

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